“Breaking free from the four emotions that control you” is a goal that most of us don’t even realize we have, but Stanley guides us through diagnosing the troubles of our hearts—and better yet—finding a treatment plan to make us whole again.
Guilt, anger, greed, and jealousy are the four horsemen of the apocalypse of our hearts. They all are signatures of debts and imbalances in our relationships and thinking.
Guilt means that “I owe you.” There is no happiness in guilt. No joyful service, no smile.
Anger means that “you owe me.” You didn’t give me what I deserve! (Whatever exactly that might be!) Herein lies the heart of a grudge.
Greed means that “I owe me.” What’s mine is mine—because I’ve earned it—and this is only the beginning. Greedy people worry, don’t share, and don’t give. But Greed isn’t a financial issue; it is a heart issue. Greed demands security.
Jealousy means that “God owes me.” How dare you have what I can’t? It isn’t “fair” that you’re smarter, better equipped, or more successful than I am, because God owes me just as good or better!
When our hearts are held captive by these feelings, we are hurt. Stanley nails it: “Hurt people hurt people. And we could add who hurt other people, who hurt still other people…. On and on it goes.”
But there is a cure! Confession, forgiveness, giving, and celebration are medicine for the soul, if we’re willing to make a habit of them.
Stanley’s book is an excellent treatment of the underlying issues most of us share. He is blunt, honest, and helpful, much like the cardiologist who can help save our physical body. I’d recommend this for small groups or personal reading. It’s cheaper than marriage counseling!
(Multnomah’s Blogging for Books provided me a free review copy of this book.)